NLP in Practice

Learning how to put NLP into practice is easier than I ever thought. And for so many days, I was incredibly frustrated that I'll never learn how to use my skills in every day conversations. The formula that I'm about to give you here is incredibly simple and very powerful.

There are four levels of learning:

* Unawareness: You don't know about the skill yet.
* Conscious Incompetence: You've discovered a skill. This is the process where you learn the theory and model other people who have mastered the skill.
* Conscious Competence: You have learned how to replicate the skill, but it takes conscious effort to use it. You don't have enough experience to really relax and let it happen yet.
* Unconscious Competence: This is the final level where you can use the skill with no effort what so ever. The right patterns have been programmed into your brain and the skill has become an automatic behavior which you can turn on whenever you want to.

While your knowledge is probably at Level 3 right now, your self-awareness of the skills you've learned is probably at Level 1. What you need to realize is that every person is a master hypnotist at one time or another. You don't have to do anything. You don't have to try. It's already in you.

Recognition Strategy:
In simple terms, be aware of how much you already do in your life. The simple recognition of the skills you have randomly put into action is enough to encourage your brain to learn them.

Real Time Strategy:

1. Watch: Every time you're having a conversation with somebody, open a slot in your consciousness that's going to act as a spectator. Calibrate. You're gonna need a 5 seconds buffer.
2. Notice: Every time you get a change of state in the other person, notice your verbal and body language that preceded the change. Also, notice the changes in you. That's what you need the 5 seconds buffer for. You are now at level 2. You know you have unconsciously put a skill into action.
3. Recognize: You are going to recognize different patterns, that you've already learned in theory. The more often you recognize the patterns, the easier it will be for you to know how to replicate them. That would be level 3 for your self-awareness.
4. Reward: Every time you recognize you've unconsciously used an NLP technique, reward yourself with something. I usually say in my mind "Thank you, neurotransmitters! You did a great job". Rewards increase the speed of unconscious learning, because the wanted behavior becomes an anchor for them.

Memory Strategy:

1. Remember: Remember a situation where you handled something really great, became really close with a perfect stranger, convinced someone of something radical, etc. Anything that you vividly remember where you have influenced a person into changing their state.
2. Recognize: Recognize the skills you had used that you are now aware of. You'll be surprised at how good you've always been at NLP.
3. Reward: Give yourself a treat for being great.